I guess it’s safe to say that no one in their right mind gets married with the intention of getting a divorce from the same person, regardless of how long it takes.
You want the marriage to work, otherwise you wouldn’t saddle yourself to another human being willingly if there weren’t ulterior motives.
Unfortunately, we’re not consistently aware of every aspect about our partners when we decide to tie the knot, let alone when we first meet them and develop an interest. When I met my former wife, we were both completely different people from who we are today. It was undergraduate school and we had all of these unreasonable hopes and dreams for the world. When you fail at your goals while finally working towards them with another person, it’s self-explanatory to put your anger on the other person. Taking that into account along with my genuine changes as people, you can absolutely see how our relationship was destined for rocky ground. At least we’re both on the same page with our split, so the divorce is going to be amicable and straight forward. Originally we considered using the same divorce attorney, but we were strongly commanded against doing that. Instead of using the exact same divorce lawyer, we each found a separate attorney for individual legal representation. Once we got the paperwork started, it wasn’t the hardest process in the world. It’s painful losing our wifey after we were together for so many years, at least our divorce lawyers tried to make the process as easy for us as humanly possible. The divorce could have absolutely gone worse than it did.